One of the most painful things I’ve had to endure in my life is hearing my children speak the words verbatim that I heard from my husband for many years. My daughter Ashley told me to stop being a victim and also to just get over it, that my childhood trauma happened almost many decades ago. It just so happened that Peter used the same words when I first knew him. I had confided in him about my oldest brother sexually abusing me when I was seven or nine years old and he pretty much told me to just get over it. Move on. I was vulnerable and impressionable and listened to him. It was probably the worst thing I could’ve done to myself. The lifelong consequences I’ve suffered were a result of sweeping my trauma under the rug. To stop being a victim was ludacris and much like a oxymoron. A person never stops being a victim. I heard the same words come out of my daughter’s mouth recently and it was just another dagger in the heart.